Mental Health as a Tool for Control

Mental health coercion happens when a partner uses someone’s mental health, emotions, or diagnosis to gain control.

This can look like:

• Calling someone “crazy” or dismissing their feelings

• Making them question their reality

• Interfering with therapy or medication

• Preventing or pressuring them around getting help

  
  

These behaviors are about power, not care. Over time, this can leave someone feeling isolated, unsure of themselves, and less likely to seek support.

Warning Signs

• Feeling like you can’t trust your own thoughts

• Being discouraged from talking to others

• Having your struggles used against you

• Feeling more confused or alone over time

  
  

How to Help a Friend

• Listen and believe without judgment

• Stay connected and remind them they are not alone

• Encourage reaching out for support

• Respect their choices without pressure

  
  

You’re Not Alone

Everyone deserves to feel respected and supported. Mental health should never be used as a weapon.

If something feels off in your relationship—or a friend’s—trust that feeling and reach out to someone safe. Support is available, and you don’t have to figure it out alone.

Call Sojourner’s 24/7 Crisis Line at 952-933-7422 to speak with an advocate.