Hope Begins with Awareness

September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, a time to pause, learn, and extend compassion. For many survivors of domestic violence, the weight of fear, isolation, and trauma can feel overwhelming. Research shows that suicides—especially among women—often follow health struggles, crises, or conflicts with partners.

At Sojourner, we see this connection firsthand. Survivors deserve more than safety—they deserve hope, healing, and the assurance that they are not alone.

Mental Health Is Part of Every Story

We all have mental health. It shapes how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices each day. Just like physical health, it needs care and attention.

When someone is struggling with suicidal thoughts, it’s not always obvious. But most people who die by suicide show signs beforehand—through what they say, what they do, or changes in how they act. Recognizing these signs gives us a chance to step in with understanding and support.

Signs Someone May Be Struggling

What they might say:

• “I just want it all to stop.”

• “I feel like a burden.”

• “There’s no reason for me to keep going.”

What they might do:

• Withdraw from friends or activities

• Give away belongings

• Increase alcohol or drug use

• Search for ways to end their life

What you might notice in their behavior:

• Extreme mood swings

• Anxiety, restlessness, or anger

• Reckless choices that don’t seem like them

  
  

Think of these signs as invitations to help. Asking someone if they’re okay—or even gently asking if they’re thinking about suicide—will not put the idea in their head. Instead, it shows them they are seen, valued, and not alone.

How You Can Make a Difference

When you notice someone struggling, reaching out can feel intimidating. But it doesn’t require the perfect words—just your presence, compassion, and willingness to listen.

Here are a few ways to offer support:

• Ask directly. Simple, caring questions like “Are you okay?” or “I’ve noticed you’ve been hurting—do you want to talk about it?” can open the door.

• Listen without judgment. Let them share at their own pace. Avoid quick fixes or dismissive comments.

• Encourage professional help. Gently suggest resources, hotlines, or counseling support.

• Stay connected. A follow-up call or message can remind them you care.

  
  

Where to Find Help

If you or someone you know is in crisis, please reach out:

• Call or text 988, or chat via 988lifeline.org. Trained counselors are available 24/7, free, and confidential.

• Call Sojourner’s Crisis Line at 952.933.7422 for 24/7, free, confidential support tailored to survivors of domestic violence.

  
  

At Sojourner, we believe that hope begins with awareness. By learning the signs, speaking up with compassion, and sharing resources, we can help prevent suicide and create a future where every survivor feels safe, supported, and valued.

Source: MN Department of Health